One of the best marriage advice I got this year came from my friend Ken. The brother looked at me straight in the eyes and with a mean face he said;
“Allison, every hour will not be happy hour. There will be times when she will not even look attractive to you. There will be nights when it will feel like your body is immune to her touch and sexiness, wrapping your warm arms around her in bed will not be interesting to you as it once were, all you will just want to do is maintain your own side of the bed and sleep yourself away. When these moments come bro, do not believe for a second that the grass will be greener on the other side, rather than chase after new adventures with other beautiful ladies in skimpy skirts and nice curves, buy your wife some new sets of underwear, and then find new ways to take them off.”
–If you don’t understand what this means, halleluyah! you’re born again.
As the year 2018 slowly comes to an end, I want to leave someone here with this advice too;
Don’t be like those people who go into marriage with false expectations. You won’t read the Bible together every single morning. You will not always pray together every single night. Some days one of you will be working late, distracted or too tired to say an ‘Amen’ to a simple sentence prayer.
“…your love will always be demonstrated by refusing to give up on each other, no matter the odds”
You won’t watch your favourite TV programs in peace every time. You won’t remember to flush the toilet sometimes. Some nights you will sleep off before you remember to say I love you. The love making will not last five minutes most times. You will miss the family dinner sometimes. You will not rub her feet and comb her hair while singing her a lullaby every time.
It does not always work like that.
You will fight, fight, fight, argue, and not get along most of the time. But your love will always be demonstrated by refusing to give up on each other, no matter the odds. This is the beautiful reality of marriage.
And always remember this
THE DEVIL PICKED A WRONG BATTLE COMING UP AGAINST YOUR MARRIAGE. YOU HAVE WON HIM AT ALL SIDES, IN YOUR SINGLENESS, AND IN YOUR MARRIAGE.
Look, It is just too late for you to go fail in marriage. And If you don’t believe that for yourself, I hope my faith is big enough to believe that for you.